Mum was constantly late picking me up from school or ballet class because she was too busy conducting errands for people she didn’t know. I began to feel ignored at a particular point during my upbringing. Nonetheless, I had a mother who was energetic, played like a child, and who, at times, completely understood me, even when I was incorrect (even if she later changed her view)… This woman has taught me valuable life lessons that fall squarely into the category of life rules. What’s more, you know what? She was absolutely correct.
1. Life can be enjoyable at any time. Be brave enough to see the things that make you you, that make you whole, and that keep your spirits up when the going gets rough and your world is crumbling apart. Behind the clouds, the sun still shines brightly. You’re still you, no matter what.
2. There is no such thing as having too many friends. Every person is unique, and each uniqueness will help you grow as a person. You can get anything from anyone as long as they are gentle and eager to share. Of course, on the condition that you are also willing to offer and take.
3. Your family is essential, but not as much as you are. Sure, there’s a sense of tradition, history, and familial ties. But, after you’ve discovered your genuine calling, don’t be afraid to take off and become who you truly are. Family is significant; it is a stepping stone to the rest of the world. But how will you know how far you can fly if you don’t move your wings?
4. If you can’t avoid it, laugh it off. You will be confronted with obstacles from time to time. Well, you might as well take pleasure in them. The challenge is to consider how each issue might help you and to keep track of where things went wrong. It’s sometimes your fault. It isn’t always the case. In either case, you may shrug at human folly when you rationalise things. Even if it means admitting you made a mistake.
5. Diplomacy is a weapon that will get you a long way. It has the potential to save your marriage, friendships, sanity, and mental health. You can sometimes say “Yes” while saying “No,” and vice versa.
6. Nothing is as critical as you believe it is right now. When things get tough and worries engulf you, remember that an hour, a day, or a year from now, none of these things will matter. So try to approach life with the realism it deserves. Recall all the things you thought were severe concerns in your daily life 10 years ago. Do you recall crying over Johnny Depp? Or the exquisite prom gown that was ruined in the washing machine by accident? What would you do if you were in a scenario like this right now? Consider yourself as you will be in years to come. Actually, you might be able to laugh it off. And this time, it would be planned ahead of time.
7. You must create in every part of your life. Make it one-of-a-kind in whatever you do. Don’t be scared to give a little of yourself; there are never regrets when you give from the heart.
8. You can always pretend to be a child. Even if you’re a grown-up. Find some time to play, to do something different, even if your commitments are too onerous. To put it another way, never stop surprising yourself. It’s never too late to begin ballet, roller skating, or Chinese martial arts.
9. Having a good time is required in every element of your life. Even if the environment does not help, you must allow yourself to obtain at least some of what you desire. Make your own happiness. And happiness is a choice; it does not happen by chance.
10. It is acceptable to cry. Never be embarrassed by your emotions. Please cry, even if you don’t think you should. Nothing beats the therapeutic benefit of weeping your heart out. Then, when you’ve had your fill, pack your dignity and continue.
11. Keep the naysayers at bay. When you notice that individuals close to you aren’t being honest, aren’t glad for your happiness, or aren’t the friends you thought they were, don’t be afraid to cut the cords and walk away. We can only go so far with people. If you want to keep a relationship, don’t hold yourself back.
12. It will take time to discover your personal style. It doesn’t have to appear when you’re twenty or thirty years old. It is a never-ending process. All you have to do now is accept yourself for who you are and how old you are. Don’t expect me to know everything there is to know about you today.
13. Be as new and fresh as a summer breeze. Be cheerful, gracious in your greetings, brave in your smiles, and considerate of others. And never let yourself be confined, because a breeze trapped in a tin will always perish.
14. You are constantly free and have a variety of options. Remember that you were born free and that you were sent into this world to create your own soundtrack. Even though you believe your options are restricted, you can always accomplish whatever you want.
15. There is no such thing as black and white. Everyone has a different perspective on the situation. You can comprehend people if you can understand this. My mother never saw me as right or wrong, which irritated me at the time. However, when you think about it, she was correct. There are a million ways to look at the truth.
16. Be inquisitive. Reading, studying, training, laughing, travelling, talking, dancing, learning, and living are all good things to do. There is no space for dullness in a world as vibrant as ours. To be honest, not everyone is capable of multitasking. It is, however, in your power to live a complete life. So keep going.
17. It’s okay to forgive and forget. Broken hearts are repaired in their own unique way by life. Allow no hatred to take root in your heart. Allow things to flow, and everything will be OK.
18. Be self-sufficient. Because it is your life, your choices, your fulfillments, your career, your home, your money, your heart, your personal life, and your body must all be considered. There is no room for a “we” in that situation. Don’t just be a part of it; be the entire person. Be whole on your own, and the rest will take care of itself.
19. You have the right to change your mind at any time. Your truth will never change, but people’s perspectives will. You grow as a person as you learn, think, build your mind, and evolve. Be willing to learn new things.
20. Never let your innocence slip away. Always look for and believe in the positive. Whether we like it or not, we all have some good in us. So keep that in mind, and if they offer you reason to question them, go on.
My Gemini mother has always been there, in the shadows, letting me grow on my own. She is a true friend, but she is not my friend. Because, in fact, she has always been there for me when I needed her, and her life has inspired me in every way.